I inadvertently worked out how to look social without actually really needing to engage in stereotypical social interactions.  How? Fill your lunches and recesses during high school with as many group activities as possible. What did this look like? Didn't I just say I was avoiding being social?

 

Well, it looks like this... 

House chorals

House drama

Large choir

Small choir

Vivace (a Baroque small group filled with

oboe's, recorders and cello)

Junior Band

Senior Band

Orchestra

and more...

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What do all these things have in common - I actually didn't have to talk to anyone during the activity - just do my job to sing or play and follow instructions!

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Of the friends I did have during school and at other times, I would preference interacting on a 1:1 basis, quickly eat lunch then hang out in the library, or connect with those who have similar interest and life experiences as I did. 

Ultimately, I have found that connecting with other neurodivergent people is my preferred connection these days. It just works.